Learning From the Lessons of Life

 

Learning From the Lessons of Life

 

By Rev. Marilyn L. Redmond, BA. ABH. IBRT

 

I. have learned there are no mistakes in life. It was all planned before I came for my spiritual growth. This was a surprise to me that I wrote a script that included my parents, friends and situations I needed in this lifetime for my spiritual growth. Since I asked the people to play those parts, I could no longer blame them for my problems in life. Their lives were difficult to play those parts for me

These lessons are carefully determined with the help of my guides in spirit for my return for another opportunity to align with the universe and resolve them in responding with loving solutions. Some people call this karma. It is necessary to release the negativity of my past actions to bring balance into my life. The predicaments were mainly from prior times that needed to be resolved so I could move forward into a higher consciousness. The past could no longer keep me stuck in the old problems. Only with resolving them can I grow beyond them. Learning to accept that reality and no longer be in denial is the lesson. This allows me to move out of what felt like hell. I was ready to move up into grace and change my ways and heart to bring peace into my life.

2. The challenges in life are to be met with loving solutions. I realized that reacting from fear and resistance to life challenges kept me in a state of being childish. Responding in loving ways is adulthood. It can be called taking the high road. This keeps me in reality and promotes my maturity. I had to find kind ways to resolve the issues to move beyond and out of my old mind set. In finding caring responses to the predicaments, I felt the old distressing feelings dissolve. It was in not resolving the situations in an appropriate way that kept me in and anguish. I had to allow life to happen and learn from the experiences.

3. Live in the moment that is why it is called <strong>The Present</strong>. As I did not know I was not in reality, but reliving the past repeatedly, I found my history was repeating itself. Some call doing the same thing repeatedly expecting different results insanity. I did not know from my growing up you could change your thinking to work for you. By my mental frame of mind still reacting to past situations or worries about the future, I was not living in reality. Reality is right now not the past or the future. When I am in the "Now" which is listening to my instincts, then I am in reality.

4. For me learning to be open-minded and opening my heart is a challenge. Since I did not grow up in a functioning family, I did not have an open heart or an open mind. Keeping me safe was closing my heart down and not opening it as it would be hurt again. The opening of my heart to feel the good/God within has been a long process. It was extremely closed keeping me in survival. The many walls around my heart kept me out of goodness, reality, and enjoying life. Finally, my feelings are flowing more and I have experienced joy, finally. My old thinking was that if the people around me were happy, I could be too. This is a form of co-dependency. Since they were depressed, they did not allow me to be happy. I found a quote by Abraham Lincoln that said, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." this gave me permission to be happy even if people around mw were not. I did not have to carry their unhappiness. When I love myself, I can allow others to have their feelings whatever they may be and that will not affect me. I am happy just being me.   

6. Nothing outside myself can save me or give me peace. It is an inside job. My parents were mentally ill and never mature themselves to love themselves. Finally, I discovered life is an inside job. I had to save myself. In changing my fear into love and opening my heart, I found I did not need to be saved, I was born in the love of my Creator and always was loved.. This brought a completely new inner security. I was looking for love in all the wrong places.  The feelings of abandonment left.

7. Safety is the complete relinquishment of attack. This was a difficult lesson for me as being raised in domestic violence and having a marriage of domestic violence. I never felt safe. I always was defending myself trying to stay safe. After years of growing into reality, I realized that my being emotionally defensive felt like an attack on my husband on a subconscious level and he retaliated in a physical attack on me. It was a passive aggressive interaction. My unconscious defensiveness felt like an attack to him; it was not visible. He retaliated in a visible response. I had to move into feeling safe and pray for him. "Father forgive him for he knows not what he does" We were both two little neglected and abused kids trying to make it in an adult world without any clue how to do it. Sending love stopped the game.

8. To heal is to be happy. Learning I could make me happy, I began to grow up and not act or react from my old insecurity, abuse, or fear. Free from my past trauma, being in the present, and being aware of what presently was transpiring made me available to feel happy. I had to release all my history to feel cheerful. The stress had stopped my feeling happy. The more I relaxed, the easier it became to experience those joyful feelings that I always wanted.

9. Love waits on welcome, not on time. Learning to pray and be thankful for the good events, feelings, and my needs being met, allowed me to feel the love and goodness that is my inheritance. I did not know in the past, that I could invite God into my life and He was waiting for me to request his love to open in my heart. Knowing to be honest, open-minded, and willing to open my heart to feel the love was a new idea. He never left me; I just had not invited him in with gratitude and being thankful for all my blessings.

10. All forgiveness is a gift to yourself. I did not know the word forgiveness. That I could forgive others was a new idea to me. The past can leave and not be a trigger for unhappy feelings, guilt, shame, or fear. I did not have to walk in that stupor anymore. I could allow it to leave for the light of God to replace the darkness. Then I still had to forgive myself. That I wrote such a difficult script for my spiritual growth was a difficult pill to swallow and accept. I have to accept each of the situations as my experience into maturity. <em>I pray I am sorry, I forgive you, I thank you, and I love you</em>, for those in my life and for myself.                                                                                

I asked those people to play the part necessary for me to mature past the childlike past. They agreed to do it. They played their parts for me to find forgiveness, gratitude, and compassion for them that were helping me to grow up. When a person gives up their life for another that is love. Those people loved me; I thought they had harmed me. Just as Shakespeare said, “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players. The steps to move into a new life are explained in detail in my book, "Paradigm Busters" at Amazon.              <a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/1530940117#customerReviews">https://www.amazon.com/dp/1530940117#customerReviews</a>

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Steps into Grace

 

By Marilyn Redmond

 

Is your life getting too hard for you? Does it feel like you are a victim and powerless.  Do your  problems keep repeating themselves? If you feel as if you have lost hope?  Then, it is time to find a new way to handle your living. These and more problems led me to a new perception about life and its challenges. At one point, I made a phone call out of desperation. I was told there is always hope. This brought a new vision into my life.

 Through wanting to improve my situation, I found a spiritual path out of the past and moving into living in the now. I had been reacting from the past trauma, difficulties, and lack of love growing up in a dysfunctional family. How do you ever move beyond the past and live in reality. I had never lived in my truth, but that of my parents, their parents, and so on. Was I up to growing beyond the fear, anger, resentments, shame, guilt, and other negative emotions into one of unconditional love?

 First, I had to be honest that I was powerless in my life. The lack of honesty is insanity that comes from the fearful messages of my brain/ego. Was I ready to be as honest as possible with myself to move into sanity? That would take a commitment to turn my life over to a loving higher power to replace the fears. I had to trust that love could bring a better life. Being physically beaten early in life and told. "I am only doing this because I love you" was a big hurdle for me. I thought love hurt. Somehow, the courage to turn my life over to a loving universe, that Created me made sense. The leap of faith was a big one.

 My path lead to identifying all the barriers I had built to protect myself from more harm. These barriers were actually stopping my receiving the love I desired from manifesting in my life. I had to open my heart to receive the gifts I had blocked, thinking I was shielding myself from more problems. In reality, they were like walls preventing the love from manifesting. Staying angry, fearful, and guilty stopped the life I wanted.

 Finding a trustworthy person, counselor, or friend to share my fears and traumatic past was necessary. I was leaving the past behind me. I had to express them to let them go and leave space for the good energies to fill the new void.  After each time of sharing, I felt lighter. It felt good. I wanted to continue cleaning out my past completely for the love and grace replacing the past emotions that kept me a victim and powerless. I was not such a bad person. Each time, I released an old feeling I replace it with love and grace. I felt liberated.

 Then I proceeded to make reparation for my side of old difficulties with others, I felt a new freedom. My stress reduced and I felt a power I never felt before. The past no longer was my focus. Now, I could live one day at a time, while I had to continue releasing daily anger and shame.

 A continual daily inventory keeps me current. I have left the past and have matured. Being in the presence of love has become the most important part of each day. I base my new life in "Thy Will Be Done", instead of My Will Be Done. Responding in loving resolutions with all my encounters does not recreate the problems. When I am in the "Now", I am in reality.

 To maintain my conscious connection with my higher power of a loving spirit within my heart, I found meditation bypasses the ego messages of negativity. I learned that I have to give love  away to keep it. This brings more love into my experience. My reward is the good feelings.  What I send out comes back. Some people say, what goes around comes around.

The new basis for my life is often called being a new creature. With my open heart I contribute to others, volunteer in the community, and am in service positions in my organizations. Love moves in a circle to return. You are actually are enhancing your own life in helping others. Love grows when shared and good feelings are the prize. Being honest, open-minded, and willing to change brought the life I always wanted. I was looking for love in all the wrong places.

 This higher level of consciousness brings me into grace. I am no longer running the show. My ego is no longer determining my action but allowing divine assistance to bring the results. Life flows easily into the next right indicated thing. My needs are met. Staying in gratitude continues my new life style. I no longer am a fear-based person but a love-based person free of the ego and past. Love never fails. God's grace is sufficient.

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A New Mind Set for Life

 

Through faith and trust, it is possible to rise above the past. The forces of Darkness have kept this knowledge from us throughout centuries. Keeping the population in lies, misinformation, fake news, and distractions stops inner searching for the answers to life and love. It is easy to dominate fearful people and have them look for external salvation. The real answers are within.  

Love has always been within my heart. I learned that I needed to give up being the manager of my life or pay attention to experts. I was afraid to listen and be vulnerable. This is my defining moment, a decision to move beyond past difficulties as I follow my internal voice of guidance and direction. . It is only possible to support life by moving into a higher level of realization.

For me surrendering for caring help from my heart was the most difficult decision and action I have taken. In my growing up love hurt.  Today, I know better and choose to replace my ego driven life of the past to become an agent of love. This was the turning point in my life. It is called the leap of faith.

With a new foundation, it is possible to grow into forgiveness, gratitude, compassion, and unconditional love that transports being in the world, but not of it. Well-being is living in the moment. This is a gift and why it is called The Present. Fresh feelings of harmony, serenity, and joy fill me. I am a spiritual being letting go of human burdens and errors as I grow back to my source of health and wellness.

"Everything in life is a vibration", said Albert Einstein. Ester Hicks who channels Abraham brought the pieces together for me. "As you identify the thing that you want and you achieve vibrational harmony with it, by the Law of Attraction, you summon the Energy through you, and that is what life is.". This process is described in my book, "Paradigm Busters". It is as simple as "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear." 1 John 4:18. I changed my past by changing me.

 Through The Law of Attraction, which is about aligning with the love of God, new perceptions of compassion and synchronicity appear. . The Law of Attraction is not about material wealth and possessions, but in attracting joy, love, and caring that manifest in a healthy emotional life. A higher consciousness attracts a higher-quality life. The right use of will power is to unite with your higher power's grace and love, knowing that God's grace is sufficient. Intuition is the presence of your higher self, which gives a beautiful vision of humanity joined in harmony and well-being.

 I believe grief is the basis of more illness than is usually identified. When you experience the sorrow of the past, you are free to move into grace. The emotional barriers I had built to protect me were actually preventing health and good things in my life. The stuck energy releases to allow the love to flow and there is no dis-ease or symptoms. Healing your pain and suffering is the biggest gift you can give yourself. With a new cause, there are better outcomes.

 Reprogramming your thinking is necessary as the past culture sent ego messages of anxiety that keep us separated from the loving universe that created us. Releasing the old negativity allows room for the good and truth to be real in our lives. The following honest sentences help you bring about all the renewed good health and energy you have wanted.

 Honesty is my connection to a higher power. I move into the sunlight of the spirit, that is the solution to my medical and other problems. There is no sickness in the grace of a higher power. My books have tools to find health and wellness from within.

 Affirmations affirm the truth and come from love. Saying affirmations to replace old thinking and behavior is most beneficial in retraining thoughts. They bring health because it changes the mindset from the ego driven life into your heart where all is good.

 Reframing thinking for doing the next right thing from the heart takes practice. Moving from the head into the heart for good orderly direction brings good results supporting health and well-being. Loving messages bring productive information to your body from self-love are often termed miracles.

  I freely release all pain, illness, and imbalance, feelings stronger with every day.

·         I am now renewing my body's ability to heal itself.

·         I balance my body, thoughts, and feelings easily each day.

·         I am now in perfect harmony.

·         Each time I want a __(a cigarette, drink, sweets), I now notice what I'm feeling.

·         I now say my feelings instead of swallowing them.

·         My body grows more beautiful.

·         I can see God/Life give my health back to me.

·         My body is now healing miraculously!

·         My strength grows steadily with every new day!

·         I am now willing to be free of all pain and illness.

·         I am now becoming the picture of health, again!

·         I accept, love, and respect my body completely.

·         My body returns my loving support.

·         I let the white light from above and within heal me with love.

·         I do not need this problem and send it away.

·         I heal this part of me with every new day.

 Changing  the focus from your head/ego to your heart center, is the answer to your life improving. The fearful messages from the brain are replaced with loving messages that support health and well-being. The change occurs with loving support of the spirit. The well-known psychic Edgar Cayce said, ""For, that we find in the spirit taketh from in the mind. Mind becomes the builder. The physical body is the result." 

 What you focus on grows. My mind set determines my life and a loving mindset of healthy thoughts become manifested.. Think good thoughts because thoughts become things, so think the good ones. I find that I have to do my part is most important; it is an inside job. Before I heard this prayer, I had never thought about taking responsibility for my health and well-being.

Prayer for Spiritual Healing

I ask the Great Unseen Healing Force

To Remove All Obstructions From My Mind and Body

And to Restore Me to Perfect Health

I ask this in all Sincerity and Honesty

And I will Do My Part.

 

I ask This Great Unseen Healing force

To Help Both Present and Absent Ones Who Are in Need of Help

And to Restore Them to Perfect Health

I Put My Trust in the love and Power of God

How do you go through this shift in your personal awareness? With knowledge and acceptance that you can move into a higher frequency to enjoy a new life is possible. Moving out of the ego and fear based life into a heartfelt life through doing the inner work, you recognize the best is yet to come.