Three Steps to a New Life -interview

                         THREE STEPS TO A NEW LIFE

 

Recently, I had an interview that is helpful to resolve old issues and situations from the past.  The three steps I discuss with Brandon Densmore are also on my You Tube with my other videos.  These three ideas moved me into a life of leaving the past behind so I could be free to enjoy my current happenings The relief and freedom from the past is a gift you can give yourself.  There is no charge, but many happy returns.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LN3MJOtbGG8&t=1s

Three Steps to a New Life

 

I have overcome many illnesses and diseases to find the answers to their resolutions into sanity and happiness.  My experience, training, and meditations brought me answers not usually understood by the medical or psychology fields. They were answers that really work and bring results. My books, writing, blog, and website have answers to life problems. However, through healing my own life, I found some basic answers that work for most situations.           

 My own issues have brought me to discovering that all our problems stem from some kind of fear.  Often, we are so use to automatically reacting with ways to defend ourselves that we stay in survival, or masking our true feelings acting out in ways that lead us away from reality. We stay in behavior to protect ourselves, but in the big picture actually bring more harm over time. Fortunately, I  am usually able to find the root cause of difficulties, illnesses, and fears. 

 Three steps to bring relief to situation, circumstance, or people who have been harmful by my perception. Step One is to find forgiveness. During my own experience of my husband trying to kill me, I was told in the silence to "Forgive him for he knows not what he does". I was too traumatized to refute this advice. Always, I was very obedient and in my fear, I did what I was told. The angels circled around him so he could not move forward. He stood there like a statue as I prayed this.  I was escorted out of the room by more angels, as I had to walk right past him out of the room.

 Eighteen years later, I realized that in my trying to protect myself, it felt like an attack on him, subconsciously. He was trying to protect himself. In my defending myself unwittingly, it was as if I were on the offensive. When I found he was acting out for his own protection visually, from my invisible attack, I had to give up my defensiveness.  I had to send love, so that would return.  By praying, to forgive him, it was a way to send love and stop the terrifying conflict. What goes around comes around. This stopped the domestic violence.

He had been deeply wounded as a child and was in extreme survival. It made sense that all people at some level are wounded. His harms were more intense than most people experience. I realized that all people have some kind of woundedness from which they are protecting themselves.  If  I send love to them it softens their reaction.

I do not send forgiveness to let them off the hood, but for me to "give up the past" "for a new day"— forgive. I can the move in my life and leave it in the past as if I cut the ball and chain connecting us. Now, I am able to live in the moment which is a gift and why it is called The Present. 

Step Two is to pray for the other person. As I continued to send prayers to him, he never touched me again. Sending prays is sending love and love does not hurt. It is the amour of God. I learned a special prayer, Ho'oponopono Pray from an Hawaiian psychologist who  was at a hospital for the mentally ill. He prayed this every day for each patient and over time the hospital was closed as all the patients were healed.

The prayer is simple " I am sorry, Forgive me, Thank you, and I Love you".  This allows me to take responsibility for writing the script where the other person agrees to teach me forgiveness, compassion, and gratitude for the opportunity to move into a higher consciousness.  In other words, I take responsibility for those things happening to me are opportunities for my spiritual growth. He was my teacher, even though it was traumatic.  I needed the intense lessons to turn to my Creator for help. Today, I realize that my husband and I were connected by having very similar childhoods of abuse. Nowadays, I have not only forgiveness, but compassion for him and what he endured to play that part for me.  Currently, I use this pray with all my past issues and harms. 

Step Three is to live one day at a time. Living in the "Now" means my mind is not focused on the past nor the future.  The past is history and I can build the future from how I live today.  I try to do something helpful to another each day for the next day to be better.  My future grows as I add to the positive thinking and behavior of my current day. It merges with tomorrow.  With all my focus in the current minute, I accomplish more and it has more profundity as all my efforts are not split in my mind to other projects. There is less stress when I have a single focus. I am not overwhelmed with other things on my mind. I easily move to the right next thing with the same total focus and by the end of the day it has gone smoothly and well.  I feel fulfilled and successful. I had a good day. 

If you would like to hear my interview, where I explain this on the internet click on the link,

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LN3MJOtbGG8&t=1s.  It was a wonderful opportunity to share this message on You Tube and my Face Book Page/  My books are at

https://www.amazon.com/stores/Marilyn-Redmond/author/B0069WIKDC  and my newest book link

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